I’ve seen my mother face domestic violence since I was a child. Growing up in an environment where individual liberty and self expression had no space for existence, I soon learnt to survive by making myself invisible. But in my most private thoughts, I always felt the need to fight for women’s rights. Maybe it … Continue reading When the stigma is from within: A story of my feminist values and a narcissistic mother
I have a friend who is a feminist. She stands for the ideals of equality. She believes in a just society where all genders can exist in harmony with no violence or aggressions. I became close to her because of this camaraderie I felt for a fellow feminist. How wonderful it is, I thought, to … Continue reading What makes You: Values or Behaviour?
"How much true it is today, when almost everybody sees, hears, feels, and tastes with his thoughts rather than the power within himself which can see, hear, feel and taste." - Erich Fromm ( Pschoanalysis and Zen Buddhism) Except for the evident exclusionary gender terms in the above lines, a profound truth can be understood. … Continue reading Intellectualizing vs. Experiencing.
Questions like "What do you expect in your romantic partner?" leads to interesting answers. One of the most common answer I've come across is, "I want to be myself around them. Someone who will accept me for everything that I am." At first glance, this expectation seems perfectly valid. After all we don't want to … Continue reading Why do we parentify our romantic partners?
“Freedom is a human’s capacity to take a hand in their own development. It is our capacity to mold ourselves. Freedom is the other side of consciousness of self: if we were not able to be aware of ourselves, we would be pushed along by instinct or the automatic march of history, like bees or … Continue reading What is Freedom?