When the stigma is from within: A story of my feminist values and a narcissistic mother

I’ve seen my mother face domestic violence since I was a child. Growing up in an environment where individual liberty and self expression had no space for existence, I soon learnt to survive by making myself invisible. But in my most private thoughts, I always felt the need to fight for women’s rights. Maybe it … Continue reading When the stigma is from within: A story of my feminist values and a narcissistic mother

Intellectualizing vs. Experiencing.

"How much true it is today, when almost everybody sees, hears, feels, and tastes with his thoughts rather than the power within himself which can see, hear, feel and taste." - Erich Fromm ( Pschoanalysis and Zen Buddhism) Except for the evident exclusionary gender terms in the above lines, a profound truth can be understood. … Continue reading Intellectualizing vs. Experiencing.

Why do we parentify our romantic partners?

Questions like "What do you expect in your romantic partner?" leads to interesting answers. One of the most common answer I've come across is, "I want to be myself around them. Someone who will accept me for everything that I am."  At first glance, this expectation seems perfectly valid. After all we don't want to … Continue reading Why do we parentify our romantic partners?